On Monday I was driving with my daughter and I saw three leaves, still attached to each other, drop to the ground. There was nothing light or autumnal about it. It was raining and dark and we were coming home from having followed my Mom, in an ambulance, to the hospital. In the cone of my headlights the doomed cluster of leaves fell as fast and straight as a suicide. And I thought maybe that the season was threatening sadness and tragedy.
Today I sit at my desk in the reservations department, looking out at the Horseshoe Falls, and off to my right I see bright-yellowed leaves on a tree that sits on the edge of the escarpment. The leaves aren't falling. The updraft is lifting them from the tree. They take flight with joy, as though they have someplace better and higher to be; as though, like Jonathon Livingston Seagull, they have decided to be more than what their fellows have accepted. My Mom still has more tests, and more tests after that, but now I wonder if the season promises relief and, perhaps, more seasons to come for her.
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Father John
A priest walked into a bar. It was a long bar which ran for 50 feet to the right and ten feet to the left. To the left was the billiards area, the dart boards and what passed for a dance floor when there was a band on what passed for a stage. The fifty foot stretch to priest's right had originally been the counter of a diner. When Mickey, whose name was in neon above the front door, bought the diner after he got home from desert storm, he'd kept the row of tables-for-four that ran parallel to counter so that those who wanted a place away from the pool players and the band could sit and eat. It also allowed Mickey's Tavern to double as a comfortable lunch spot for the local merchants. Father John sat in the booth at the far right end of the bar. It had the only table with a reserved sign down in the corner with no windows.
Mickey's Tavern was not the kind of bar that typically had reserved seating, but the locals knew that no one sat there except for Father John. He would come in maybe three or four times a month, greet no one and sit there and wait without a sound for Mickey, a large Desert Storm vet, to join him. Mickey always took Father John a beer and sat and talked with him.
Jane, the new girl was racking glasses. Mickey had hired Jane for her looks more than her bar tending skills. However, she'd proven in the first week that she was a quick study and her personality won over the women at the bar while her long black hair and sweet, farm girl face kept the men coming back and ordering more food and drinks than they normally would. She turned to a small row of regulars seated at the bar.
"What's up with Mickey and the padre?"
Everyone looked up and turned to her. Jane wondered if she had just asked for a dark secret. Stanley had barstool seniority and there was tacit agreement that he knew the tale best. Stanley had retired from GM 7 years before and had made daily visits to Mickey's since then. Even before that, he'd been one of Mickey's first customers and had been, by sheerest coincidence, present at every major happening in the tavern.
"Well," he leaned back in his chair so his moderate beer gut could enhance his authority, "some six years back, young Father John there came in and sat there in that seat right there. Not a word. Just sat there for an hour, looking out the window." Jane moved as though to correct Stanley because there was no window at that table. Rachel, Mickey's second hire after opening, and the unofficial mother to everyone at the bar, shook her head subtly and Jane demurred. Stanley continued, unaware that he'd almost been interrupted.
"Mickey finally went over with a beer and sat down. No one knows what they talked about, but later Father John was all smiles. That's when he introduced himself. We still don't know why Mickey needs to see a priest in here three or four times a month, but he's done that ever since."
"And the reserved sign?" asked Rachel. She knew, but she also knew her part in the telling of the story. Stanley raised his left eyebrow and nodded at the memory. "I was here for that one too. Some young punks came in and sat there and when Father John saw them there he turned to leave."
"What did Mickey do?" asked Jane, no longer interested in racking the glasses.
"He asked them to move, all nice and friendly like. You know, to make room for the Father."
"They said 'no,' right?"
Everyone looked at Ted like he had farted in church. Ted was new and knew neither the story nor the traditional manner in which it was told.
Stanley moved ahead to spare Ted undue embarrassment. "Yeah, they said 'no.' Mickey was even bigger then." Stanley shook his head and smiled to savor the climax just a little longer. "He asked one more time and then hauled all three of them at one time. You would think that it would have taken two trips but he had all of them in the parking lot in less than a minute. As they lay there on the pavement, he told them they ought to go and see Father John to apologize personally."
"So the 'reserved' sign is meant to keep the table free for Father John whenever he thinks he needs to see Mickey?"
"Yep." Stanley leaned back on his stool with the air of a cop summarizing a crime scene. "Mickey calls that his confessional. The Padre gets a free beer for his services." Jane smiled at this detail.
"Getting a priest drunk for confession? I gotta try that the next time I unload during confession."
Stanley raised his eyebrows in surprise. "How often does a sweet girl like you have to go to confession?" Jane bit her bottom lip to suppress a grin.
"I get into trouble sometimes that I don't always avoid. It amazes me that the priest doesn't go crazy-horny with all the details of my sinful ways."
The regulars at the bar all nodded in appreciation of the priest's dilemma.
Ted leaned forward across the bar, "What kind of details?"
Jane threw her drying cloth in his face. "Nice try, Ted. I tell my secrets to a priest exactly so I don't have to deal with a hormonal perv like you."
Ted sat back in good-natured defeat. "Why not tell a girlfriend?" he asked.
"The last time I told my secrets to a 'girlfriend' she posted them on her myspace page. I can't afford therapy so I go see a priest to unload. Feels great and I am forgiven in the process."
Ted threw the drying towel back at Jane. "Why don't you keep your secrets to yourself, if they are so dirty?"
"Boy," said Stanley, "the dirtier the secret the more you have to share it with someone. Everyone, even big-and-strong Mickey there, needs to unload. The first time he met with Father John, Mickey told me that he felt great. Now he seems tired after their little meetings, as though he carries more than when he was younger. I guess he has more of a life than just sitting and listen to us piss and moan about our lives over all this booze."
"And you gotta be able to trust someone who won't tell," said Rachel. "When I was being beaten by my ex, I couldn't talk to no one but my priest. I made the mistake of telling my dad and he got so angry it was all I could do to keep him from killing my Tony. After that, I lied about things being better and I saved all the worst stuff for my priest. It didn't really solve nothin, but at least I know the priest wasn't about to go all crazy and kill someone. They deal in charity and forgiveness and that was what I needed."
Jane was pouring herself a coke. "True enough, Rachel. That so-called girlfriend who put my sex life on the web? She got all self-righteous and was like, 'how could you?' and 'I'd never do that.' Then I found out from a friend that she was totally jealous because she liked the guy I'd been with. With the priest, I don't have to worry about him liking me, like Ted here, or judging me, like my 'friend.' I just thank God I have a priest to talk to."
"Well," said Ted, "I never go to confession. I'm not even Catholic, but I could so use someone who won't judge me, especially for what I am thinking about Jane right now."
This time Jane threw a coaster him, but Ted was ready and caught it.
"Thanks, Jane." Jane smiled, just a little impressed at the new guy's reflexes. He was, after all, kind of hot, for a mechanic.
Ted emptied his stein, smug in the possibilities he saw in Jane's eyes. recognized Jane's expression and began to plan what he would have to confess after he hooked up with Jane. "I think," he said, "I will see Father John next. Sort of a Pre-emptive confession. Do priests do that?"
"Nope," said Stanley. "I told you: that is Mickey's confessional."
The regulars all sat for a minute with their own thoughts.
******
Mickey rose from his seat and came from that far end of the bar. As he approached the regulars, he said, "Another draft, Jane."
"Slow down, Mickey," said Stanley, "You can only lay so much on a priest in one sitting. The man carries everyone's load and has nobody except other overloaded priests to help him carry it all."
Mickey looked at Stanley for a second and then narrowed his eyes and pursed his lips into a forced smile. He took the beer, thanked Jane and headed back to the table to sit with the padre. Jane looked at Stanley and the rest of the regulars.
"Wow," she whispered with exaggerated quietness, "Mickey must be getting his brew's worth. Wonder why Mickey looks so tired."
Ted said what they were all thinking. "If the average joe like my can't keep his few secrets all tied down inside, how does Father John keep everyone's from just gushing out?."
******
"Here you go, John." Mickey was worried; Father John looked like he had battle fatigue. Mickey had seen it enough times in combat. He'd even seen it in teachers, nurses, doctors, and cops. It was the look of someone who'd been stretched too far, seen and heard too much. "John, for years you have sat here and unloaded about the evil in the world in general, but this is something else, isn't it?"
Father John took a long slow drink of his beer. "Do you remember why I first came in here?"
Mickey looked out at the few clouds passing through the sky and pretended to think hard about this question. In fact, he'd always remembered the disillusionment of young Father John that day. "I think you were upset that everyone of your parishioners seemed to be living with secrets and sins on a scale you'd never thought possible."
The padre nodded. He did not even notice the weather. His eyes were glued to his drink. "I felt useless because nothing I ever did made them better people or the world a better place."
"As I recall," Mickey said as he took a drink, "I told you that's not what you do. You take away the weight people are carrying so they can make themselves and their world better."
"You saved my career, my calling, as priest with that insight." The prematurely grey priest took a long drink. "One minute I'm listening to a man who has beaten his wife…again, and feels so much remorse…again! Then I am listening to a beautiful young woman tell me about how much sex she is having…again. I swear she's not so much confessing as she is bragging. I wish they would all just grow up."
Father John hung his head low and Mickey heard his quiet confession, "And I wish I could be just like them.
His jaw clenched in frustration. Mickey waited for the priest to calm down. To himself he had to agree that Father John looked more worn down this week than ever. The man's hands clenched and flexed, even when he wasn't talking.
"Sometimes I burn from lust for the promiscuous girl whose silhouette is as clear as a cameo through the screen in my confessional. Other times I am consumed with murderous wrath towards this cruel husband. I tried telling this to Father O'Malley, but he's so judgmental I think I've begun to hate that old man."
Father John looked at his bartender friend for a long moment. "You know, Mickey, I thank God you let me unload on you."
Mickey's Tavern was not the kind of bar that typically had reserved seating, but the locals knew that no one sat there except for Father John. He would come in maybe three or four times a month, greet no one and sit there and wait without a sound for Mickey, a large Desert Storm vet, to join him. Mickey always took Father John a beer and sat and talked with him.
Jane, the new girl was racking glasses. Mickey had hired Jane for her looks more than her bar tending skills. However, she'd proven in the first week that she was a quick study and her personality won over the women at the bar while her long black hair and sweet, farm girl face kept the men coming back and ordering more food and drinks than they normally would. She turned to a small row of regulars seated at the bar.
"What's up with Mickey and the padre?"
Everyone looked up and turned to her. Jane wondered if she had just asked for a dark secret. Stanley had barstool seniority and there was tacit agreement that he knew the tale best. Stanley had retired from GM 7 years before and had made daily visits to Mickey's since then. Even before that, he'd been one of Mickey's first customers and had been, by sheerest coincidence, present at every major happening in the tavern.
"Well," he leaned back in his chair so his moderate beer gut could enhance his authority, "some six years back, young Father John there came in and sat there in that seat right there. Not a word. Just sat there for an hour, looking out the window." Jane moved as though to correct Stanley because there was no window at that table. Rachel, Mickey's second hire after opening, and the unofficial mother to everyone at the bar, shook her head subtly and Jane demurred. Stanley continued, unaware that he'd almost been interrupted.
"Mickey finally went over with a beer and sat down. No one knows what they talked about, but later Father John was all smiles. That's when he introduced himself. We still don't know why Mickey needs to see a priest in here three or four times a month, but he's done that ever since."
"And the reserved sign?" asked Rachel. She knew, but she also knew her part in the telling of the story. Stanley raised his left eyebrow and nodded at the memory. "I was here for that one too. Some young punks came in and sat there and when Father John saw them there he turned to leave."
"What did Mickey do?" asked Jane, no longer interested in racking the glasses.
"He asked them to move, all nice and friendly like. You know, to make room for the Father."
"They said 'no,' right?"
Everyone looked at Ted like he had farted in church. Ted was new and knew neither the story nor the traditional manner in which it was told.
Stanley moved ahead to spare Ted undue embarrassment. "Yeah, they said 'no.' Mickey was even bigger then." Stanley shook his head and smiled to savor the climax just a little longer. "He asked one more time and then hauled all three of them at one time. You would think that it would have taken two trips but he had all of them in the parking lot in less than a minute. As they lay there on the pavement, he told them they ought to go and see Father John to apologize personally."
"So the 'reserved' sign is meant to keep the table free for Father John whenever he thinks he needs to see Mickey?"
"Yep." Stanley leaned back on his stool with the air of a cop summarizing a crime scene. "Mickey calls that his confessional. The Padre gets a free beer for his services." Jane smiled at this detail.
"Getting a priest drunk for confession? I gotta try that the next time I unload during confession."
Stanley raised his eyebrows in surprise. "How often does a sweet girl like you have to go to confession?" Jane bit her bottom lip to suppress a grin.
"I get into trouble sometimes that I don't always avoid. It amazes me that the priest doesn't go crazy-horny with all the details of my sinful ways."
The regulars at the bar all nodded in appreciation of the priest's dilemma.
Ted leaned forward across the bar, "What kind of details?"
Jane threw her drying cloth in his face. "Nice try, Ted. I tell my secrets to a priest exactly so I don't have to deal with a hormonal perv like you."
Ted sat back in good-natured defeat. "Why not tell a girlfriend?" he asked.
"The last time I told my secrets to a 'girlfriend' she posted them on her myspace page. I can't afford therapy so I go see a priest to unload. Feels great and I am forgiven in the process."
Ted threw the drying towel back at Jane. "Why don't you keep your secrets to yourself, if they are so dirty?"
"Boy," said Stanley, "the dirtier the secret the more you have to share it with someone. Everyone, even big-and-strong Mickey there, needs to unload. The first time he met with Father John, Mickey told me that he felt great. Now he seems tired after their little meetings, as though he carries more than when he was younger. I guess he has more of a life than just sitting and listen to us piss and moan about our lives over all this booze."
"And you gotta be able to trust someone who won't tell," said Rachel. "When I was being beaten by my ex, I couldn't talk to no one but my priest. I made the mistake of telling my dad and he got so angry it was all I could do to keep him from killing my Tony. After that, I lied about things being better and I saved all the worst stuff for my priest. It didn't really solve nothin, but at least I know the priest wasn't about to go all crazy and kill someone. They deal in charity and forgiveness and that was what I needed."
Jane was pouring herself a coke. "True enough, Rachel. That so-called girlfriend who put my sex life on the web? She got all self-righteous and was like, 'how could you?' and 'I'd never do that.' Then I found out from a friend that she was totally jealous because she liked the guy I'd been with. With the priest, I don't have to worry about him liking me, like Ted here, or judging me, like my 'friend.' I just thank God I have a priest to talk to."
"Well," said Ted, "I never go to confession. I'm not even Catholic, but I could so use someone who won't judge me, especially for what I am thinking about Jane right now."
This time Jane threw a coaster him, but Ted was ready and caught it.
"Thanks, Jane." Jane smiled, just a little impressed at the new guy's reflexes. He was, after all, kind of hot, for a mechanic.
Ted emptied his stein, smug in the possibilities he saw in Jane's eyes. recognized Jane's expression and began to plan what he would have to confess after he hooked up with Jane. "I think," he said, "I will see Father John next. Sort of a Pre-emptive confession. Do priests do that?"
"Nope," said Stanley. "I told you: that is Mickey's confessional."
The regulars all sat for a minute with their own thoughts.
******
Mickey rose from his seat and came from that far end of the bar. As he approached the regulars, he said, "Another draft, Jane."
"Slow down, Mickey," said Stanley, "You can only lay so much on a priest in one sitting. The man carries everyone's load and has nobody except other overloaded priests to help him carry it all."
Mickey looked at Stanley for a second and then narrowed his eyes and pursed his lips into a forced smile. He took the beer, thanked Jane and headed back to the table to sit with the padre. Jane looked at Stanley and the rest of the regulars.
"Wow," she whispered with exaggerated quietness, "Mickey must be getting his brew's worth. Wonder why Mickey looks so tired."
Ted said what they were all thinking. "If the average joe like my can't keep his few secrets all tied down inside, how does Father John keep everyone's from just gushing out?."
******
"Here you go, John." Mickey was worried; Father John looked like he had battle fatigue. Mickey had seen it enough times in combat. He'd even seen it in teachers, nurses, doctors, and cops. It was the look of someone who'd been stretched too far, seen and heard too much. "John, for years you have sat here and unloaded about the evil in the world in general, but this is something else, isn't it?"
Father John took a long slow drink of his beer. "Do you remember why I first came in here?"
Mickey looked out at the few clouds passing through the sky and pretended to think hard about this question. In fact, he'd always remembered the disillusionment of young Father John that day. "I think you were upset that everyone of your parishioners seemed to be living with secrets and sins on a scale you'd never thought possible."
The padre nodded. He did not even notice the weather. His eyes were glued to his drink. "I felt useless because nothing I ever did made them better people or the world a better place."
"As I recall," Mickey said as he took a drink, "I told you that's not what you do. You take away the weight people are carrying so they can make themselves and their world better."
"You saved my career, my calling, as priest with that insight." The prematurely grey priest took a long drink. "One minute I'm listening to a man who has beaten his wife…again, and feels so much remorse…again! Then I am listening to a beautiful young woman tell me about how much sex she is having…again. I swear she's not so much confessing as she is bragging. I wish they would all just grow up."
Father John hung his head low and Mickey heard his quiet confession, "And I wish I could be just like them.
His jaw clenched in frustration. Mickey waited for the priest to calm down. To himself he had to agree that Father John looked more worn down this week than ever. The man's hands clenched and flexed, even when he wasn't talking.
"Sometimes I burn from lust for the promiscuous girl whose silhouette is as clear as a cameo through the screen in my confessional. Other times I am consumed with murderous wrath towards this cruel husband. I tried telling this to Father O'Malley, but he's so judgmental I think I've begun to hate that old man."
Father John looked at his bartender friend for a long moment. "You know, Mickey, I thank God you let me unload on you."
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Huggy
“I love you, Huggy. You’re the best. I owe you, Big Time.”
Huggy, or Scott, as his parents had named him, took in Esther’s hug like a drunk sipping the last of the foreseeable wine. Her breasts pushed against his ribs, her shiny dark brown hair blinded his eyes and the smell her perfume took his breath away.
“No, Princess,” he disengaged himself before his emotions became awkward. “You are the best. We’ve discussed this already.” This exchange was standard every time Huggy ran an errand or did some task for Esther.
He put the groceries on the center station in the Esther’s kitchen. He felt the usual mixture of satisfaction and resentment seize his chest. This meal that she was preparing was to help her celebrate with her boyfriend Mike again. He was being promoted, again. And Huggy was helping her cook the meal that would lead to just-got-a-promotion sex, again. Mike always got everything he wanted.
Esther turned to the cupboard and reached up with both hands to get a large bowl out from under a smaller bowl. Scott took in the view instead of offering to help. Her breasts were so large that he could see them on either side from behind. In her white tee-shirt, (without a bra because only Huggy was around) and tight jeans cut off just above the knees she was more beautiful than anything Scott had ever seen. She had a tiny fit body and took flak for it from the other women at work who said that it was easy for her because she was so tiny she could eat anything. These same women brought in donuts, cakes, cookies, and candy every single day of the week and made everyone who declined to partake feel guilty by saying, “but I baked it myself.” As if they could plan the eating habits of everyone at work by cooking at home the night before. Esther always declined and therefore was considered stuck up and unapproachable. The truth was, though, that those breasts and her beautiful face were her only free genetic gifts. Esther ate a healthy diet, ate it sparingly, avoided alcohol except for nights like this one, and hit the gym 5 days a week. And, unlike the women at work, when her emotions boiled over, she didn’t eat; she bought plants and called Huggy.
“Princess,” Scott said suddenly, “does this stack of groceries look familiar to you?”
She froze for a second and then spun around, her unrestrained breasts exaggerating the movement. Her hands shot to her mouth. She looked at the groceries in horror.
“Huggy,” she whined in frustration, “why didn’t you say something?”
“I am the dude in the room,” he retorted, “Details like this are part of the mindset of women and gay men. I only noticed it when you reached up to grab that bowl.” In Scott’s mind it was not the bowl but the view of her from behind that had triggered the memory of the last celebratory meal.
Esther put her hands on the counter behind her, shrugged and sighed. “I promised Michael something special. Maybe I can pretend this is the standard meal for celebrating a promotion.”
Scott could not stand to see her eyes look so disappointed. Her amazing body notwithstanding, the thing that had captured Scott’s secret heart from day one was her eyes. He had done many desperate things to keep them from looking disappointed. And here came another one.
“Listen, you get yourself ready. I will get the ingredients for lasagna. It takes 45 minutes to prepare and I’ll have it ready by the time you finished putting on your most seductive dress.
She bit her lip and smiled. There. There. The disappointment was gone from her eyes. She crossed the kitchen and hugged him again. In these moments he memorized the contours of her body and the clutch of her hands.
She buried her face into his chest and said. “Huggy, You. Are. The. Best. I owe you Big Time.”
He hugged her for moment longer and then put his hands on shoulder, pushed her back so he could see the eyes he adored. They glowed with relief, gratitude, and worst of all, friendship.
“No, you are the best. We discussed this already.”
This time she kissed him on the cheek before giving him an extra squeeze. “I have to jump in the shower.” She turned and trotted down the hall.
*****
The store was two blocks away. Scott walked in a fog of the image of Esther in the shower. He both hated and imbibed that image. Beautiful and out of reach, except for Michael. The same cashier he’d seen 30 minutes before joked that he must be very hungry. She was cute, gorgeous actually, but all women paled next to Esther.
On the short trip back to Esther’s place he ran through the familiar dialog with himself about why Esther did not love him instead of Michael. How had Scott become the “Good Friend?” How had he become Huggy? Mr. Reliable. The titles that might describe his place in Esther’s life scrolled like movie credits in his head.
Gopher.
Key Grip.
Best Boy.
Why God can’t Esther love me like I love her?
*****
He paused at the door and considered his situation. Many times he had sat on a couch with a pillow on his lap and Esther’s head on the pillow. They’d watch DVDs and she would invariably doze off for 20 minutes. When she fell asleep, she would unconsciously hold his hand in hers like a teddy bear under her cheek. This put his forearm between her breasts or on top of one of them for 20 minutes. He was glad for the pillow then. Then she’d wake up and ask what had happened while she slept. He’d pause the video and tell her what she’d missed. She would kiss her finger and touch his cheek, tell him he was the best and they would finish the movie. Then he’d go home and think of all the things he should have done and said and curse himself for a coward.
*****
Groceries in hand, he entered the kitchen. Esther was singing in her room, now out of the shower, getting dressed and choosing the underwear that Michael would remove in less than 2 hours. Scott put the unneeded groceries away and started the new special meal. He had to hurry because Michael would be on time and Esther would be of no help with the food. This same girl who had caused accidents with nothing more than a t-shirt and knee length skirt could spend hours primping for her man. Scott had to admit, though, that the effect was worth it.
Sixty-five minutes later he was lighting the candles. The aroma of lasagna filled the house. The table was set and the food was on heated plates ready to be uncovered. The chairs on the end of the table had been removed and the dinner accessories had been set on the ends for easy access. The remaining two chairs were set up opposite each other across the width of the table so that hands could touch, and glasses could clink. Anything that had cluttered the dining area, or in anyway compromised the romantic atmosphere, had been removed. The candles were placed off to the sides so that the couple could see each other and not have to look through the flames. He’d arranged every one of her many plants around the dining room so that it looked more like an exclusive dining suite in a restaurant for the super rich.
As Scott finished the candles he heard a gasp behind him. He turned to see Esther with her hands over her mouth and tears in her eyes. She walked slowly toward Scott. He had never seen anything so beautiful as this woman at this moment. The limited light seemed to gather around her face and was amplified. Her dress was modest in length, but held her body like a jealous lover.
“This is the sweetest thing you have ever done for me. You’re the best. I owe you, big time.”
“What do you owe me?” he heard himself ask. He felt something coming loose in his heart.
She smiled. “Everything. This is way above and beyond.”
“So when do I get this everything you owe me?” He couldn’t believe this was coming from his mouth, but maybe it was time and he suddenly wanted an answer. His voice appeared to have a mind of its own.
She stepped back, “What’s wrong, Huggy?”
“Scott,” his calm, low voice sounded like a young Clint Eastwood, Tense but restrained. “My name is Scott. Huggy is what you call a teddy bear. It is what you call me to keep me at a safe non-threatening distance.”
She was at a loss for words because this was not the Huggy she knew. “I call you Huggy,” she stammered, “because you hug me so nicely.”
He continued as though she had not spoken. It was an overdue release to let his mouth just have the reins. “You keep saying that you owe me, but as near as I can tell, I do all the work in this so-called friendship. You have noticed that I am a man, right?”
“Yes, but…”
“Do you think I’m gay?” He was on a roll, but this was not how he’d planned this going.
“No you’re not gay…”
“Am I so unattractive?”
“No! You’re very…”
“I have loved you and respected you and served you for three years. You sat in your underwear and cried on my shoulder for three hours when your last boyfriend cheated on you. Do you know any other man who would have respected you enough not to try to have sex with you in that situation? I don’t even fondle your breasts when you fall asleep in my lap. I practically built this relationship you have with Michael, and will probably be your shoulder again when he cheats. But that’s okay, isn’t it, because Michael is a real man so he gets a man’s name. I get ‘Huggy.’”
She stood their crying, but he was not done.
“I have never asked you for anything in return because I have been in love with you for three years and always believed that you do whatever you can for the woman you love without explanation.”
“You love me? You’re in love with me?”
“Are you for real?” He was working to keep the strain out of his voice now. “The problem with beautiful women is that they are so used to having men act the way they want, they assume that men can’t think or feel anything that is not approved. You don’t love me so you can’t conceive that I might love you. You think I don’t have the right or the capacity.”
“That’s not fair, Huggy, Scott.”
“Damn right it’s not fair. So now I am not ‘The Best’ anymore?’ Just a jerk?”
“No Huggy,”
He stepped up to her. “Scott. My name is Scott. I am a man who fell in love with women who believes that others should do for her, but feels her royal presence is all that she owes in return.”
Esther was crying now because she knew that she really did very little for this man she had always relied on. If her eyes had registered disappointment, Scott would have withered and apologized. But those perfect eyes showed that she knew he was right and she was wrong.
“Scott…”
“Don’t. I get it, Esther; you don’t love me…you can’t be in love with me. I have treated you like a queen for three years. I know everything about you. And I know this as well as anything else. Tonight you will eat a meal I prepared with a man who will reap the erotic payoff for work that I did. Michael will peel off that dress that you spent an hour putting on and I won’t even matter.
“I love you Esther Yale. This dinner is the last thing I will ever do for you.” He kissed her cheek. “Good-bye,” he whispered in her ear. He picked up his jacket on the way to the door and without looking back walked down into the late sunset.
Michael was just arriving.
“Hey there, Huggy.”
Scott clenched his fist but kept his cool in front of the lucky bastard. In less than an hour he would be enjoying a side of Esther that Scott could only imagine.
“Hey, Mike.” Scott paused. “Listen, Esther asked me to tell you to give her 15 minutes to make herself perfect. Just walk around the block and let her think you were late for once. It’ll make her feel good.” He turned to leave.
“Good idea, Huggy. Hey, this evening works out like I hope, I owe you, big time.”
He turned back to Michael. “What do you owe me?” He asked.
*****
“I said I guess I owe you a big kiss.” Esther stepped up and kissed her Huggy on the lips. The kiss lasted longer than Scott expected. He looked down at her as she backed away.
“I love you,” she smiled
“I love you,” he smiled back. Two identical sentences with entirely different meanings.
He didn’t deserve her. He would never tell her all that he dreamt of saying because much of it was not fair and the rest was his problem, not hers. He’d keep doing stuff for her in the useless hope that she would owe him love. But love can’t be a debt.
She wasn’t the problem; for all that he loved her, for all that he had done for her, he had never told her the truth. In his cowardice, he would never risk losing a second best, secret, one-sided, pathetic romance by speaking up, telling Esther the truth, and letting the chips of his heart fall where they may. He would stand six inches from her and love her desperately from a distance. He could give her anything except courage.
“Enjoy your evening.” He kissed her cheek. “And say ‘hi’ to Michael.”
*****
As he descended the stairs into the late sunset, Michael was arriving.
“Hey, Scott.”
“Hey, Mike,” He stopped. “Listen, Mike. She has worked all afternoon to make tonight perfect. Compliment her on her cooking and the table setting more than you compliment her dress. She’ll appreciate that you noticed.”
Mike nodded thoughtfully. He seemed about to ask something, but then changed his mind. “Good thinking, Scott. Thanks for the heads up. I owe you.”
“Have a good night, Mike.”
Huggy, or Scott, as his parents had named him, took in Esther’s hug like a drunk sipping the last of the foreseeable wine. Her breasts pushed against his ribs, her shiny dark brown hair blinded his eyes and the smell her perfume took his breath away.
“No, Princess,” he disengaged himself before his emotions became awkward. “You are the best. We’ve discussed this already.” This exchange was standard every time Huggy ran an errand or did some task for Esther.
He put the groceries on the center station in the Esther’s kitchen. He felt the usual mixture of satisfaction and resentment seize his chest. This meal that she was preparing was to help her celebrate with her boyfriend Mike again. He was being promoted, again. And Huggy was helping her cook the meal that would lead to just-got-a-promotion sex, again. Mike always got everything he wanted.
Esther turned to the cupboard and reached up with both hands to get a large bowl out from under a smaller bowl. Scott took in the view instead of offering to help. Her breasts were so large that he could see them on either side from behind. In her white tee-shirt, (without a bra because only Huggy was around) and tight jeans cut off just above the knees she was more beautiful than anything Scott had ever seen. She had a tiny fit body and took flak for it from the other women at work who said that it was easy for her because she was so tiny she could eat anything. These same women brought in donuts, cakes, cookies, and candy every single day of the week and made everyone who declined to partake feel guilty by saying, “but I baked it myself.” As if they could plan the eating habits of everyone at work by cooking at home the night before. Esther always declined and therefore was considered stuck up and unapproachable. The truth was, though, that those breasts and her beautiful face were her only free genetic gifts. Esther ate a healthy diet, ate it sparingly, avoided alcohol except for nights like this one, and hit the gym 5 days a week. And, unlike the women at work, when her emotions boiled over, she didn’t eat; she bought plants and called Huggy.
“Princess,” Scott said suddenly, “does this stack of groceries look familiar to you?”
She froze for a second and then spun around, her unrestrained breasts exaggerating the movement. Her hands shot to her mouth. She looked at the groceries in horror.
“Huggy,” she whined in frustration, “why didn’t you say something?”
“I am the dude in the room,” he retorted, “Details like this are part of the mindset of women and gay men. I only noticed it when you reached up to grab that bowl.” In Scott’s mind it was not the bowl but the view of her from behind that had triggered the memory of the last celebratory meal.
Esther put her hands on the counter behind her, shrugged and sighed. “I promised Michael something special. Maybe I can pretend this is the standard meal for celebrating a promotion.”
Scott could not stand to see her eyes look so disappointed. Her amazing body notwithstanding, the thing that had captured Scott’s secret heart from day one was her eyes. He had done many desperate things to keep them from looking disappointed. And here came another one.
“Listen, you get yourself ready. I will get the ingredients for lasagna. It takes 45 minutes to prepare and I’ll have it ready by the time you finished putting on your most seductive dress.
She bit her lip and smiled. There. There. The disappointment was gone from her eyes. She crossed the kitchen and hugged him again. In these moments he memorized the contours of her body and the clutch of her hands.
She buried her face into his chest and said. “Huggy, You. Are. The. Best. I owe you Big Time.”
He hugged her for moment longer and then put his hands on shoulder, pushed her back so he could see the eyes he adored. They glowed with relief, gratitude, and worst of all, friendship.
“No, you are the best. We discussed this already.”
This time she kissed him on the cheek before giving him an extra squeeze. “I have to jump in the shower.” She turned and trotted down the hall.
*****
The store was two blocks away. Scott walked in a fog of the image of Esther in the shower. He both hated and imbibed that image. Beautiful and out of reach, except for Michael. The same cashier he’d seen 30 minutes before joked that he must be very hungry. She was cute, gorgeous actually, but all women paled next to Esther.
On the short trip back to Esther’s place he ran through the familiar dialog with himself about why Esther did not love him instead of Michael. How had Scott become the “Good Friend?” How had he become Huggy? Mr. Reliable. The titles that might describe his place in Esther’s life scrolled like movie credits in his head.
Gopher.
Key Grip.
Best Boy.
Why God can’t Esther love me like I love her?
*****
He paused at the door and considered his situation. Many times he had sat on a couch with a pillow on his lap and Esther’s head on the pillow. They’d watch DVDs and she would invariably doze off for 20 minutes. When she fell asleep, she would unconsciously hold his hand in hers like a teddy bear under her cheek. This put his forearm between her breasts or on top of one of them for 20 minutes. He was glad for the pillow then. Then she’d wake up and ask what had happened while she slept. He’d pause the video and tell her what she’d missed. She would kiss her finger and touch his cheek, tell him he was the best and they would finish the movie. Then he’d go home and think of all the things he should have done and said and curse himself for a coward.
*****
Groceries in hand, he entered the kitchen. Esther was singing in her room, now out of the shower, getting dressed and choosing the underwear that Michael would remove in less than 2 hours. Scott put the unneeded groceries away and started the new special meal. He had to hurry because Michael would be on time and Esther would be of no help with the food. This same girl who had caused accidents with nothing more than a t-shirt and knee length skirt could spend hours primping for her man. Scott had to admit, though, that the effect was worth it.
Sixty-five minutes later he was lighting the candles. The aroma of lasagna filled the house. The table was set and the food was on heated plates ready to be uncovered. The chairs on the end of the table had been removed and the dinner accessories had been set on the ends for easy access. The remaining two chairs were set up opposite each other across the width of the table so that hands could touch, and glasses could clink. Anything that had cluttered the dining area, or in anyway compromised the romantic atmosphere, had been removed. The candles were placed off to the sides so that the couple could see each other and not have to look through the flames. He’d arranged every one of her many plants around the dining room so that it looked more like an exclusive dining suite in a restaurant for the super rich.
As Scott finished the candles he heard a gasp behind him. He turned to see Esther with her hands over her mouth and tears in her eyes. She walked slowly toward Scott. He had never seen anything so beautiful as this woman at this moment. The limited light seemed to gather around her face and was amplified. Her dress was modest in length, but held her body like a jealous lover.
“This is the sweetest thing you have ever done for me. You’re the best. I owe you, big time.”
“What do you owe me?” he heard himself ask. He felt something coming loose in his heart.
She smiled. “Everything. This is way above and beyond.”
“So when do I get this everything you owe me?” He couldn’t believe this was coming from his mouth, but maybe it was time and he suddenly wanted an answer. His voice appeared to have a mind of its own.
She stepped back, “What’s wrong, Huggy?”
“Scott,” his calm, low voice sounded like a young Clint Eastwood, Tense but restrained. “My name is Scott. Huggy is what you call a teddy bear. It is what you call me to keep me at a safe non-threatening distance.”
She was at a loss for words because this was not the Huggy she knew. “I call you Huggy,” she stammered, “because you hug me so nicely.”
He continued as though she had not spoken. It was an overdue release to let his mouth just have the reins. “You keep saying that you owe me, but as near as I can tell, I do all the work in this so-called friendship. You have noticed that I am a man, right?”
“Yes, but…”
“Do you think I’m gay?” He was on a roll, but this was not how he’d planned this going.
“No you’re not gay…”
“Am I so unattractive?”
“No! You’re very…”
“I have loved you and respected you and served you for three years. You sat in your underwear and cried on my shoulder for three hours when your last boyfriend cheated on you. Do you know any other man who would have respected you enough not to try to have sex with you in that situation? I don’t even fondle your breasts when you fall asleep in my lap. I practically built this relationship you have with Michael, and will probably be your shoulder again when he cheats. But that’s okay, isn’t it, because Michael is a real man so he gets a man’s name. I get ‘Huggy.’”
She stood their crying, but he was not done.
“I have never asked you for anything in return because I have been in love with you for three years and always believed that you do whatever you can for the woman you love without explanation.”
“You love me? You’re in love with me?”
“Are you for real?” He was working to keep the strain out of his voice now. “The problem with beautiful women is that they are so used to having men act the way they want, they assume that men can’t think or feel anything that is not approved. You don’t love me so you can’t conceive that I might love you. You think I don’t have the right or the capacity.”
“That’s not fair, Huggy, Scott.”
“Damn right it’s not fair. So now I am not ‘The Best’ anymore?’ Just a jerk?”
“No Huggy,”
He stepped up to her. “Scott. My name is Scott. I am a man who fell in love with women who believes that others should do for her, but feels her royal presence is all that she owes in return.”
Esther was crying now because she knew that she really did very little for this man she had always relied on. If her eyes had registered disappointment, Scott would have withered and apologized. But those perfect eyes showed that she knew he was right and she was wrong.
“Scott…”
“Don’t. I get it, Esther; you don’t love me…you can’t be in love with me. I have treated you like a queen for three years. I know everything about you. And I know this as well as anything else. Tonight you will eat a meal I prepared with a man who will reap the erotic payoff for work that I did. Michael will peel off that dress that you spent an hour putting on and I won’t even matter.
“I love you Esther Yale. This dinner is the last thing I will ever do for you.” He kissed her cheek. “Good-bye,” he whispered in her ear. He picked up his jacket on the way to the door and without looking back walked down into the late sunset.
Michael was just arriving.
“Hey there, Huggy.”
Scott clenched his fist but kept his cool in front of the lucky bastard. In less than an hour he would be enjoying a side of Esther that Scott could only imagine.
“Hey, Mike.” Scott paused. “Listen, Esther asked me to tell you to give her 15 minutes to make herself perfect. Just walk around the block and let her think you were late for once. It’ll make her feel good.” He turned to leave.
“Good idea, Huggy. Hey, this evening works out like I hope, I owe you, big time.”
He turned back to Michael. “What do you owe me?” He asked.
*****
“I said I guess I owe you a big kiss.” Esther stepped up and kissed her Huggy on the lips. The kiss lasted longer than Scott expected. He looked down at her as she backed away.
“I love you,” she smiled
“I love you,” he smiled back. Two identical sentences with entirely different meanings.
He didn’t deserve her. He would never tell her all that he dreamt of saying because much of it was not fair and the rest was his problem, not hers. He’d keep doing stuff for her in the useless hope that she would owe him love. But love can’t be a debt.
She wasn’t the problem; for all that he loved her, for all that he had done for her, he had never told her the truth. In his cowardice, he would never risk losing a second best, secret, one-sided, pathetic romance by speaking up, telling Esther the truth, and letting the chips of his heart fall where they may. He would stand six inches from her and love her desperately from a distance. He could give her anything except courage.
“Enjoy your evening.” He kissed her cheek. “And say ‘hi’ to Michael.”
*****
As he descended the stairs into the late sunset, Michael was arriving.
“Hey, Scott.”
“Hey, Mike,” He stopped. “Listen, Mike. She has worked all afternoon to make tonight perfect. Compliment her on her cooking and the table setting more than you compliment her dress. She’ll appreciate that you noticed.”
Mike nodded thoughtfully. He seemed about to ask something, but then changed his mind. “Good thinking, Scott. Thanks for the heads up. I owe you.”
“Have a good night, Mike.”
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Bully
How bad do you have to be, without being a murderer or a rapist, to have people glad that you are dead? People who normally get along with people and just want to go about their lives. My best friend is a dedicated high school teacher and very successful basketball and volley ball coach. Two years ago she was the South Carolina State coach of the year. She played NCAA volleyball and basketball and she is a beautiful blond who retains her physical prowess and her teenage figure well into her thirties. The problem with such people is that they engender jealousy and pettiness in smaller people. When she added volleyball coaching to her already busy life, she had an idea that was brilliant in its simplicity and changed the color, literally of sports at our school. I was lucky enough to be her sidekick in much of what she did coaching wise and so I saw the implementation and the benefits of her plan.
In Charleston, South Carolina Basketball is largely a Black sport and Volleyball is largely a White sport. To keep her basketball team in shape and reverse the volleyball team's losing record, she encouraged her basketball players to try out for volleyball. With similar logic, she encouraged her volleyball players to consider trying out for basketball. This altered the complexion of both sports and somehow she was called racist by parents of both races. Volleyball parents said she favored Black players and Basketball parents said she was favoring white players. Of course, most parents just let things be and were wise enough to see that both teams benefited from the Coach's unorthodox approach.
If this were another story about race relations in South Carolina, you'd have all the facts you'd need to take sides. The complicating factor is that the disgruntled parents, Black and White were organized by a wealthy White man who was upset that his daughter was losing court time in both sports. Let's call her Kara. Kara's dad thought she deserved to be in the starting line up for the basketball team. Among my duties as sidekick to my best friend, I was the one who announced the starting line up, and Kara was rarely on it. The truth is that Kara was a coach's nightmare; loads of potential but no fire. Kara was tall and attractive with a lean athletic build. I was only one of many who noted that she was physically identical to Coach herself. But, where Coach did everything to realize her potential, Kara thought being young and pretty was enough. And her father agreed. He managed to rally a small but vocal group of parents to complain about everything they could think of.
Coach was a racist. It didn't matter that both races were throwing the diametrically opposed grievances.
Coach was unapproachable. It didn't matter that she had given every player and parent her cell number.
Coach coached like a man. It was hard to imagine what that meant, but her male athletic director actually demonstrated two different ways of hugging female players. And he demonstrated it on Coach herself in front of the principal in the principal's office.
The district superintendent got involved and said that changes needed to be made because the athletic director, who had more authority almost than the principal, had said that both the volleyball and basketball programs were in disarray. Kara's dad was telling the entire community that he'd offered to buy the school two new score boards provided they fire Coach. Rumors of her impending firing were without foundation, but they flourished and that emboldened parents to speak in public about what a lousy coach she was and how the school should do something about her. That her winning record was unparalleled at that school didn't seem to deter this group of liars.
Coach coaches hard and cares for her players like they were her children. She believes that sports is a way of truly defining and revealing character. She loves to win, but she loves to see her players grow as young women even more. For all that, I am one of the few people outside of her family who ever get to see her vulnerable side. And so it was that I sat with her one night on her couch and she rested her head on my shoulder and said that she wondered if she should just give up. It was difficult because I was only three months away from moving back to Canada with my kids, a move I was reluctant to make, but was really powerless to avoid. However, I gave what comfort I could and told her that she was the strongest person I know. Summer came and we had a month to have our kids together before I left. The school was strangely silent about the whole affair and Coach was not going to stir things up.
I moved July 1. Our friendship became a daily phone call that could last as much as 2 hours. We talked of her divorce proceedings, my search for a job, any number of things that had to be worked out and that needed support and an ear. Then she called to tell me that Kara's dad had died of a heart attack. He'd been a rich contractor. His company built the school our kids attended. He'd also been a cocaine dealer when he was young and it turned out that he'd never really left that behind. The IRS had seized his assets, law enforcement was closing in ,and finally Kara's dad's heart gave out.
"You're glad aren't you?"
This conversation was late at night and I was on my cell, walking along some train tacks near my house.
She was hesitant to answer.
"It's okay," I assured her. "It's just me. You coached Kara and those other girls for several years and gave them everything. And then her dad decided to take you down with no other authority than wealth. He tried to take away the means to feed your kids. He was a bully. And nobody mourns their bully."
"I talked to my Mom," she said, "I never really told her the whole thing, but I told her that I felt nothing at hearing that he was dead. Then I kind of felt relieved."
"And now you are kind of happy aren't you?"
"I think so."
"Now you know how I felt when Dr. Hooper died."
Dr. Hooper had been the principal at my first school in Charleston. I have never met a woman able to destroy so thoroughly. She bullied people until they walked away from their teaching careers. In one case, a sixth grade history teacher went home on a Friday and just didn't show up ever again. An art teacher vowed never to set foot in a classroom again. This woman was so bad that we had to have a special team of professional mediators come to the school to help "heal" the rift between the faculty and the administration. Of course, that made things much worse.
A few years later, when she died and I read about it in the paper while I was helping out in the library at my next school, I ran down to the classroom of another teacher who had spent two years under Dr. Hooper and who had looked like an abuse victim when I first met her.
I burst into her room.
"I already heard," she said with a big smile on her face.
"Really?"
"I had four voicemails on my cell singing, 'Ding Dong. The witch is dead.'"
Later I called my mom and said that as a good Mormon boy I was struggling with the joy I felt at this woman's death from complications of lupus. My mom said that she was a bully, and no one mourns their bully.
And that was the truth that I passed on to Coach. No one mourns the person who made their life hell just for the fun of it.
Coach was relieved to hear my perspective. And then we rehashed the previous four months of misery that she'd been through. The next night during our late night conversation, she began to tell me how all of this had made her wonder what kind of a person she was and how she could be both better able to protect herself from another such blindsiding and how she could make sure that she treated people better from that point on. It was just like Coach to take that kind of persecution and use it as a reason to examine her own life and improve from it. I guess that is the difference between her and her bully. My guess is that Kara's dad's funeral was attended by people pretending to mourn. When Coach dies (many, many decades from now) they will likely have made a movie about her and named a school after her.
In Charleston, South Carolina Basketball is largely a Black sport and Volleyball is largely a White sport. To keep her basketball team in shape and reverse the volleyball team's losing record, she encouraged her basketball players to try out for volleyball. With similar logic, she encouraged her volleyball players to consider trying out for basketball. This altered the complexion of both sports and somehow she was called racist by parents of both races. Volleyball parents said she favored Black players and Basketball parents said she was favoring white players. Of course, most parents just let things be and were wise enough to see that both teams benefited from the Coach's unorthodox approach.
If this were another story about race relations in South Carolina, you'd have all the facts you'd need to take sides. The complicating factor is that the disgruntled parents, Black and White were organized by a wealthy White man who was upset that his daughter was losing court time in both sports. Let's call her Kara. Kara's dad thought she deserved to be in the starting line up for the basketball team. Among my duties as sidekick to my best friend, I was the one who announced the starting line up, and Kara was rarely on it. The truth is that Kara was a coach's nightmare; loads of potential but no fire. Kara was tall and attractive with a lean athletic build. I was only one of many who noted that she was physically identical to Coach herself. But, where Coach did everything to realize her potential, Kara thought being young and pretty was enough. And her father agreed. He managed to rally a small but vocal group of parents to complain about everything they could think of.
Coach was a racist. It didn't matter that both races were throwing the diametrically opposed grievances.
Coach was unapproachable. It didn't matter that she had given every player and parent her cell number.
Coach coached like a man. It was hard to imagine what that meant, but her male athletic director actually demonstrated two different ways of hugging female players. And he demonstrated it on Coach herself in front of the principal in the principal's office.
The district superintendent got involved and said that changes needed to be made because the athletic director, who had more authority almost than the principal, had said that both the volleyball and basketball programs were in disarray. Kara's dad was telling the entire community that he'd offered to buy the school two new score boards provided they fire Coach. Rumors of her impending firing were without foundation, but they flourished and that emboldened parents to speak in public about what a lousy coach she was and how the school should do something about her. That her winning record was unparalleled at that school didn't seem to deter this group of liars.
Coach coaches hard and cares for her players like they were her children. She believes that sports is a way of truly defining and revealing character. She loves to win, but she loves to see her players grow as young women even more. For all that, I am one of the few people outside of her family who ever get to see her vulnerable side. And so it was that I sat with her one night on her couch and she rested her head on my shoulder and said that she wondered if she should just give up. It was difficult because I was only three months away from moving back to Canada with my kids, a move I was reluctant to make, but was really powerless to avoid. However, I gave what comfort I could and told her that she was the strongest person I know. Summer came and we had a month to have our kids together before I left. The school was strangely silent about the whole affair and Coach was not going to stir things up.
I moved July 1. Our friendship became a daily phone call that could last as much as 2 hours. We talked of her divorce proceedings, my search for a job, any number of things that had to be worked out and that needed support and an ear. Then she called to tell me that Kara's dad had died of a heart attack. He'd been a rich contractor. His company built the school our kids attended. He'd also been a cocaine dealer when he was young and it turned out that he'd never really left that behind. The IRS had seized his assets, law enforcement was closing in ,and finally Kara's dad's heart gave out.
"You're glad aren't you?"
This conversation was late at night and I was on my cell, walking along some train tacks near my house.
She was hesitant to answer.
"It's okay," I assured her. "It's just me. You coached Kara and those other girls for several years and gave them everything. And then her dad decided to take you down with no other authority than wealth. He tried to take away the means to feed your kids. He was a bully. And nobody mourns their bully."
"I talked to my Mom," she said, "I never really told her the whole thing, but I told her that I felt nothing at hearing that he was dead. Then I kind of felt relieved."
"And now you are kind of happy aren't you?"
"I think so."
"Now you know how I felt when Dr. Hooper died."
Dr. Hooper had been the principal at my first school in Charleston. I have never met a woman able to destroy so thoroughly. She bullied people until they walked away from their teaching careers. In one case, a sixth grade history teacher went home on a Friday and just didn't show up ever again. An art teacher vowed never to set foot in a classroom again. This woman was so bad that we had to have a special team of professional mediators come to the school to help "heal" the rift between the faculty and the administration. Of course, that made things much worse.
A few years later, when she died and I read about it in the paper while I was helping out in the library at my next school, I ran down to the classroom of another teacher who had spent two years under Dr. Hooper and who had looked like an abuse victim when I first met her.
I burst into her room.
"I already heard," she said with a big smile on her face.
"Really?"
"I had four voicemails on my cell singing, 'Ding Dong. The witch is dead.'"
Later I called my mom and said that as a good Mormon boy I was struggling with the joy I felt at this woman's death from complications of lupus. My mom said that she was a bully, and no one mourns their bully.
And that was the truth that I passed on to Coach. No one mourns the person who made their life hell just for the fun of it.
Coach was relieved to hear my perspective. And then we rehashed the previous four months of misery that she'd been through. The next night during our late night conversation, she began to tell me how all of this had made her wonder what kind of a person she was and how she could be both better able to protect herself from another such blindsiding and how she could make sure that she treated people better from that point on. It was just like Coach to take that kind of persecution and use it as a reason to examine her own life and improve from it. I guess that is the difference between her and her bully. My guess is that Kara's dad's funeral was attended by people pretending to mourn. When Coach dies (many, many decades from now) they will likely have made a movie about her and named a school after her.
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